Carrie and Shawn…you are lucky. You are blessed. You are not alone. Maybe tell Xane about a mama whose daughter decided she was too desperate to go on another day. But she didn’t live. She didn’t live to find out that maybe she wouldn’t always feel desperate and alone. She wasn’t lucky enough to survive and be reminded about how much her family loved her. Her dad, her sisters…we miss her every day. My mama heart hurts every day. You are brave and strong and loved, Xane. When you feel desperate, hold onto those feelings instead. And make it just one more day. Every day.
(And PS: I really felt you with what you said about the demonization of letting kids use technology, because we used to try for that - because all the parenting guides say that you MUST! - but all of the autistic adults who participate in the private parenting groups I'm in are really clear that iPads/computers/etc are how our autistic kids self-regulate and they have to be allowed them.)
Oh, Carrie, I am so glad they're safe and so glad you got that wonderful, knowledgeable and supportive response from the crisis response supervisor. So many hugs to all of you.
Carrie and Shawn…you are lucky. You are blessed. You are not alone. Maybe tell Xane about a mama whose daughter decided she was too desperate to go on another day. But she didn’t live. She didn’t live to find out that maybe she wouldn’t always feel desperate and alone. She wasn’t lucky enough to survive and be reminded about how much her family loved her. Her dad, her sisters…we miss her every day. My mama heart hurts every day. You are brave and strong and loved, Xane. When you feel desperate, hold onto those feelings instead. And make it just one more day. Every day.
(And PS: I really felt you with what you said about the demonization of letting kids use technology, because we used to try for that - because all the parenting guides say that you MUST! - but all of the autistic adults who participate in the private parenting groups I'm in are really clear that iPads/computers/etc are how our autistic kids self-regulate and they have to be allowed them.)
Oh, Carrie, I am so glad they're safe and so glad you got that wonderful, knowledgeable and supportive response from the crisis response supervisor. So many hugs to all of you.