Carrie and Shawn…you are lucky. You are blessed. You are not alone. Maybe tell Xane about a mama whose daughter decided she was too desperate to go on another day. But she didn’t live. She didn’t live to find out that maybe she wouldn’t always feel desperate and alone. She wasn’t lucky enough to survive and be reminded about how much her family loved her. Her dad, her sisters…we miss her every day. My mama heart hurts every day. You are brave and strong and loved, Xane. When you feel desperate, hold onto those feelings instead. And make it just one more day. Every day.
Oh, Linda. I thought of you and a few other moms and dads as I was writing this post, but you especially. I love you so terribly much. You. Your wisdom. Your brilliance. Your mama heart. Thank you for this message.
(And PS: I really felt you with what you said about the demonization of letting kids use technology, because we used to try for that - because all the parenting guides say that you MUST! - but all of the autistic adults who participate in the private parenting groups I'm in are really clear that iPads/computers/etc are how our autistic kids self-regulate and they have to be allowed them.)
Exactly! The therapist was like "No! Do not take it away. It is how they cope." And I just wanted to shout to everyone who judges, "Look! See!" I should make her record it so I can play it for everyone. :)
Oh, Carrie, I am so glad they're safe and so glad you got that wonderful, knowledgeable and supportive response from the crisis response supervisor. So many hugs to all of you.
Carrie and Shawn…you are lucky. You are blessed. You are not alone. Maybe tell Xane about a mama whose daughter decided she was too desperate to go on another day. But she didn’t live. She didn’t live to find out that maybe she wouldn’t always feel desperate and alone. She wasn’t lucky enough to survive and be reminded about how much her family loved her. Her dad, her sisters…we miss her every day. My mama heart hurts every day. You are brave and strong and loved, Xane. When you feel desperate, hold onto those feelings instead. And make it just one more day. Every day.
Oh, Linda. I thought of you and a few other moms and dads as I was writing this post, but you especially. I love you so terribly much. You. Your wisdom. Your brilliance. Your mama heart. Thank you for this message.
Mwah! 🤟🏽
(And PS: I really felt you with what you said about the demonization of letting kids use technology, because we used to try for that - because all the parenting guides say that you MUST! - but all of the autistic adults who participate in the private parenting groups I'm in are really clear that iPads/computers/etc are how our autistic kids self-regulate and they have to be allowed them.)
Exactly! The therapist was like "No! Do not take it away. It is how they cope." And I just wanted to shout to everyone who judges, "Look! See!" I should make her record it so I can play it for everyone. :)
Oh, Carrie, I am so glad they're safe and so glad you got that wonderful, knowledgeable and supportive response from the crisis response supervisor. So many hugs to all of you.
So many hugs back to you, Stephanie. <3